A New Way to Heal: The Framework That Helps You Take Control of Your Life

By Lesley Corbett | Waypoint Wellness & Performance Coaching

🌿 Your Past Doesn’t Decide Your Future—Your Response Does

We’ve all experienced it: the weight of past hurts, disappointments, and unmet expectations. For some, it’s carried like an overstuffed backpack filled with regrets and losses, while others wear it like protective armour—tough, controlled, and seemingly impenetrable. Yet, regardless of how your pain shows up, the ultimate question remains:

What will you do with it now?

Psychology has offered us profound insights, from attachment theory and learned helplessness to motivation and hope. These powerful concepts help us understand parts of ourselves—but what if there was a single, unifying framework to clearly map out how these dynamics shape your life today?

🔹 Introducing a New Lens to Understand Yourself

Through years of coaching and studying human behavior, I’ve uncovered a clear, powerful pattern—a unique way to see not just what’s happened to you, but how you’ve chosen to respond to those events.

This model is based on two core dimensions: emotional security and personal responsibility. At their intersection lies a transformative quadrant—one that clearly defines where you currently stand, how you relate to yourself and others, and most importantly, how you can move forward.

Where you land within this quadrant influences every aspect of your life:

• How you navigate conflict
• The way you build relationships
• Your response to setbacks
• And even how you define your own identity

Some are living in a state of survival, functioning but fractured. Others embody quiet confidence, firmly anchored in growth and authenticity. Most of us exist somewhere in between.

🔸 This isn’t about assigning blame.

It’s about embracing ownership.

Real, lasting change doesn’t come from revisiting what others have done to you; it emerges from asking yourself:

“How am I responding today? What am I choosing now?”

This framework provides you the clarity and tools to:

• Identify your current internal posture
• Recognize and reshape the patterns driving your choices
• Move confidently towards a more secure, responsible, and empowered life—regardless of your past

In the weeks ahead, I’ll reveal more about this powerful approach, explaining precisely how it integrates the science of hope, motivation theories, attachment dynamics, and personal accountability.

For now, let me leave you with this truth:

The trajectory of your life isn’t set by your history—it’s shaped by the posture you choose right now.

Stay tuned. This journey might just change everything.

© Lesley Corbett, 2025. All rights reserved. Unauthorized reproduction or distribution of this content is prohibited.

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